“My partner and I are curious to explore this, but we’re not sure it’s for us.”

There’s no pressure if it is or if it isn’t! BDSM has a quickly growing community of ordinary people just like you. What attracts so many to the lifestyle is that it makes no absolute demands, and only takes what you give it. In other words- it’s what ever you make of it! The only way to know is to explore!

“I’m trying to Top my partner for the first time, and I really need feedback about whether or not I’m doing it right.”

Over the years I’ve spent a great deal of time working with Tops to find harmony between their vanilla personality and their dominant sexuality. Sometimes referred to as character development, finding your Dominant Character while learning technical and psychological skills is the best way to discover true confidence in the bedroom.

“I’m new to being a sub and my Top says I Top From The Bottom too much. How do I communicate during a scene without offending my Top?”

I’ve worked with hundreds of individuals, both male and female, to improve their vocabulary, timing, and tone when in character while still  keeping it genuine. Understanding how different Tops like to be addressed, and the defining differences between submissives, bottoms, and switches can save everyone a lot of confusion during negotiations and during a scene.

“I’m not new at this, but there are a few things I could learn more about.”

Not every Top needs basic classes. Depending on the class, instead of teaching you a structured 101 or 102 level class, we’ll co-Top a sub so I can get a very good picture of your current limitations, critical thinking, and safety knowledge. When I have a better idea of where you are in your play I can show you specific tools or tricks that will inspire you to safely execute new ideas of your own.

If I don’t feel I am the best person to teach you about any particular subject I will do my best to point you to the person(s) or forum(s) to best help you in your exploration.

“I really like BDSM, and I’d like to try doing it professionally, but I know it’s very different than the lifestyle. Are there special classes for Pro Dommes?”

I was once the Headmistress of a successful House of Domination in New York City. In my time there every Mistress hired underwent a training program that has grown into the curriculum I now offer to everyone. The goals and exercises of the Professional classes are restructured with that particular dynamic in mind. 

“Are private or group classes better for me?”

Fortunately, many major cities offer both! However, if you are unable to attend public classes, worried about discretion, learn better one-on-one, or are looking for more advanced classes you’ve found the right place!